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Sunday, May 08, 2011

Rocking Chairs, Baby Dolls, and Mother's Day

When I was little, I used to have this one particular doll. Her body was sort of a cylinder shape with soft arms and soft legs sticking out. Her neck and the middle of her body had sand or something similar in it so that she would gradually fall over if she was sitting up. The eyes in her soft plastic head closed. When she would "fall" over, her eyes would close and she would "go to sleep". She wasn't a particular favourite, but I liked the fact that she could close her eyes, and she was small - like a little baby.

Also, ever since I was little I have loved rocking chairs. My mom used to rock me (and my brothers) to sleep. Even to this day, I will choose to sit in a rocking chair if there is one available. I find them to be very relaxing. I heart rocking chairs.

One of the"rituals" I had when I was little, was to get ready for bed at least an hour before I would actually go to bed, sit in my rocking chair (to help me relax and get sleepy), put my little blanket over my lap, and cradle my doll as if she were my baby. Since her eyes closed, it seemed more like I was rocking her to sleep. It was like she was my baby, and I was her mother.

Today is Mother's Day. I have always found this to be difficult - well, for at least twenty years anyway. I'm more than happy, on this day, to celebrate all that my mom is, because she is AWESOME...but, it's bittersweet for me.

I have no kids (other than a 4 legged furry baby). I'm 42 years old and I'm not married, and I have no kids. Ever since I can remember, I have wanted to be a wife and mother. It's been a huge desire, probably all my life. And it hasn't happened. Will it? I have no idea. And, it hurts when people try to tell me that it will happen one day - in all honesty, unless they are God, they don't.

Usually this doesn't bother me a lot.  I try to deal with it, and not let it affect me, but there are other times when it hurts to the very core of my being - like Mother's Day. Like I said, it's not something that bothers me all the time; usually there is something that triggers the pain - someone getting engaged or married, especially if these are people I've watched grow up and are years younger than me; or someone having a baby (doesn't matter if it's a first or sixth baby). And that can be difficult to deal with - and accept.

So, as I hold back my pain and hurt (because, really, it's not about me), and try to turn it over to God, I would like to wish all the awesome mother's out there a very blessed and happy Mother's Day!

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Shelley, you have a lot of love to give. And you are in the right profession, because the kids out there need a lot of love. So don't think of yourself as not having kids, but how you are able to make a difference in the life of the children that you do come in contact with. I know its not the same thing. I've been told from people that have kids, that providing childcare is the same thing, except you have to give them back at the end of the day (mind you, sometimes its a blessing to do that...

Stay strong sweetie and know that you are an awesome and great lady. And know that there are many children, that can honestly say that "You" have made a difference in their lives. God has a plan for you sweetie and He will show you what it is in His timing.
Oh and yeah. You've made a huge difference in the life of this big kid :) Love ya girl!!!
Oh, hon...I can imagine that is hard esp. when you see people around you, but God has a plan for you. Of course, His timing and our timing is sometimes off.. I'm sure you would be a great mom! and thank you...July will be one year since my daughter has embarked on her life outside the nest...so this was my first Mother's day with only one little birdie in the nest. it's so hard!
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Yes...hard on both of us, for sure!
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